Help With Protecting a Baby?
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TN, Nashville to be exact. Me and my boyfriend have been rasing his now 22 month old son for the past 15 months, I guess I need to start at the beginning so u may fully understand the situation. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years, I am a recovering drug addict, a liltle over 2 years clean. We didnt’ know the mother was pregnant, we didnt know the baby exsisted untill he was 4 months old. The mother of the child has a server drug problem and was a friend of mine when i was struggling with my own addiction. She had the baby in jail, and her sister came and got the baby from the hospital. We at this point stil didnt know the child exsisted. The sister pulled some strings and got the mom in a rehab where she could have the baby with her, this is when my boyfriend was notified about the baby. From the first day we knew of the child he has supported him. Every visitation day he was there, bought all the diapers, clothes, formula ect that the baby needed while they were in the rehab. When it was time for them to leave the rehab I agreed for the mom and baby to come live with me and my boyfriend. Since they had nowhere to go and the mom claimed the baby was my boyfriends i thought it was the right thing to do. For a month and a half everything went good, but one day the mom dissapeared, she was on probation from a charge from a few years ago, thats why she was in jail when she had the baby, and from what she said when we found her the pressure of being on probation and being a mom was too much, so for the next 2 months she was on the streets using drugs and being a prostitute to get money, she never called to see how the baby was, never came to see him.
Well one day we get a call from her saying she was in jail, somehow her probation violation didnt show up and they released her, I came to pick her up, me, her and the baby had a great day. Went to the park, saw a movie, then went to the lake in the afternoon. But at the lake she started drinking and on the way home she started saying she wasnt ready to be a mom and wanted me to stop the car. She became violent and started hitting the windows of the car so i stopped and she jumped out and took off down the street. A few days later some friends told me they saw her walking down a street notorious for prostitution in our city. A few weeks later ( and apparently 3 more times of being arrested and let go) we got another call from her saying she was in jail. Her probation violation had kicked in and her being well known by all the police ( shes been arrested 64 times in 4 years) she got picked up right away.
All this time i have been a stay at home mom for her child and my boyfriend works duringing the day and is home at night. She ended up having to do 13 months in jail for the probation violation, and during this time she enterd programs the jail offerd to help her fight her addiction. She Had a boyfriend who waited this whole time for her, sending her money every week, and keeping money on the phone so she could call. During this time she gave me power of attoreney over the baby. Finally 2 weeks ago she got out. When she got out she had a stable home, a car and everything she would need for her and the baby to have a happy peaceful life, she left my house with the baby and set an appointment up with vital records to add my boyfriends name to the birth certificate. They had a aggrement that she would bring the baby to us fri- sun and she would have the baby mon-thurs. last weekend she fulfilled this agreement and everything went as planned.
Yesterday she had her sister at her house and told her sister she needed to go to the store. Her sister has a 2 yr old as well who was asleep at the time so the sister said she would watch the babies. The mom of my boyfriends baby never came back. Her boyfriend found her on the same road she always goes to when she is using and she became very violent with him, saying she wasnt coming back and just talking bad to him. He saw her again today and tried to get her to come back and she broke his window on his car, and had some guy she was with threaten him with a gun. Needless to say she’s unbalanced. My only concern is protecting the baby. Her sister is bringing him back here tomorrow. I need advice, i’m not related to her or the baby, and my boyfriend’s name is still not on the birth ceritficate, also he’s not a legal immagrant. We want this baby, we are all he’s ever really kknown, and it’s not right her running in and out of his life like this, this child dosent deserve this. any legal advice would be greatly appreciated. Sorry this was so long, I just wanted however reads this to have all the facts, also we are a low income family, i just got a job at a fast food place and he only makes about 450/wk. We may be low income, but not low on love for this child, please help, thank you
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Answer by yummi mummy
I don’t have any legal advice but I do have some general advice. I am a mother of 2 myself so here goes….
1) Stop the birth mother from coming around to your house or near the baby. She is a violent drug addict and prostitute who is continuously in and out of Jail – the innocent child does not need to be influenced by her nonsense. She could harm him/her at anytime, as she is a user.
2) Get a paternity test with father and baby, if it turns out he is the baby’s father, then the child will be his and he will be able to call the shots legally and go for full custody.
3)If you really love and care for this baby, stay away from drugs (both of you), I know you mentioned you are currently clean. Just reminding you.
I think you are a great, courageous and caring woman. I commend you for putting the baby first. Well done.
All the best my friend, I will pray for your family and hope that all goes well.
God Bless
Yummi.Mummy
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